| Answer:  Saying salām whether loudly or quietly does not 
  mean that the dead are listening to this greeting. It is just a prayer from 
  the living for the dead. We just imagine the dead person before our eyes and 
  talk to him as if he were before us -- whereas he is actually not. This is our 
  common practice whenever we deeply recall a dead person even while sitting at 
  home, isn’t it? 
  It is evident from the Qur'ān that once a person dies 
  his spirit goes to a place beyond the barrier of Barzakh to a place whose 
  details we know very little of: 
  Before them is a partition (Barzakh) until the Day of 
  Judgement. (23:100) 
  Immediately after death, a soul comes to know whether he 
  shall be among the dwellers of Heaven or of Hell. If he is to enter Heaven, he 
  is treated in a grand style and shown his final residing place in Heaven. If 
  he is to enter Hell, he is treated as criminals are before receiving their 
  punishments and shown his dwelling place in Hell. This is a kind of a mental 
  torture for him.  
  Both these treatments have been referred to in the 
  Hadīth literature as being given within the grave. Actually, in all such 
  Ahādīth, the word `grave’ signifies the world beyond the partition of Barzakh.
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