| Answer: It is
certainly not forbidden to feel aggrieved for a dead person for more than three
days. To grieve for a person is not in one’s control. In fact, it is so natural
that the Prophet (sws) himself wept at the death of his son Ibrāhīm:
When Ibrāhīm was
about to die, the Prophet (sws), it is reported, picked him up, kissed him while
tears were coming out of his eyes. One of his companions asked: O Prophet of
Allah, do you cry also? The Prophet replied that this crying is a blessing and
then while weeping remarked: Eyes shed tears and the heart is aggrieved but we
shall only say that with which the Lord is pleased and we are sad at being
separated from you O Ibrāhīm! (Bukhārī, Kitābu’l-Janā’iz)
The thing which is
desirable is that a person should come back to his normal life routine by not
later than three days. He should not just sit and sob after this period, but
should try to adjust to the new situation. |