| Answer: Well, according to the Qur’ān, a Muslim should
always try to remain thankful to the circumstances the Almighty has ordained for
him. You see, our objective as a Muslim is to surrender to the will of the
Almighty, since we know that He always means well for us. When He does not let a
person achieve a target that person had set for himself, it may imply that He
wants to shield him from its ill-effects, which that person could have no
knowledge of. As the saying goes: man proposes and God disposes. It is His will
which has to ultimately prevail and it is to this will that we must submit. This
is the essence of Islam.
The other thing is that falling in love is one thing and ‘trying’ to fall in
love another. The former is but natural and cannot be objected to if proper
norms and limits are maintained before a man and woman can get married. The
latter is not a very decent thing to do. Such emotions are spontaneous and if
made conditional to artificial means, generate unseeming and unbecoming
attitudes and demeanour. My advice to you would be to accept the decision of
Allah with perseverance and spend your time in constructive activities . Maybe
you will fall in love a second time. But let it happen automatically. Also, you
must be very careful: if you do come across such a relationship, you must
observe the limits of the Sharī‘ah |