| Answer: By
concept of love-marriage in Islam if you mean that the Qur’an
recommends or condemns it directly anywhere, then most
certainly that is not the case. However if one were to look at
the spirit of the Qur’an and the Sunnah, the following
understanding emerges:
1. Both
bridegroom and bride have to willingly approve the idea of
their marriage. Therefore, there can be no objection to the
fact that the spouses-to-be know each other well enough to
take that decision.
2. In the
process of knowing each other, they can interact within the
limits of decency. However, they should not meet each other
and remain together for long durations alone.
3. Before
getting married, although exchange of messages in the form of
emails, sms messages etc is not disallowed, such exchanges
should not degenerate into expression of unacceptable
expressions. One should avoid, for example, expressing one’s
emotions of love for the other person before marriage. That
expression should be reserved exclusively for post-marriage
life.
4. Feelings of
love for the other person cannot be considered unacceptable.
Such feelings are in fact quite natural in many cases.
However, one should not do anything indecent to communicate
and promote it. |