Anger is basically a positive sentiment that needs to be channeled. It
arises out of intense love for something. I will share some tips that I received
from one of my teachers regarding driving away one’s anger. It will be a good
reminder for me, and I hope you will benefit from it as well. The text of his
email is as follows:
a) When you cool down, immediately seek forgiveness from the one who was at the
receiving end. You will, hopefully, find the frequency coming down. But make
sure that this principle is applied uniformly to all cases of your unjustifiable
bursts of anger.
b) Analyze the reasons for your anger after it is over. Admonish yourself for
having done that. Anger, like any other emotion, doesn’t come all of sudden: it
builds up. Train yourself to either shut up if the initial stages of anger show
their signs of arrival; or, if you can’t shut up, leave the place.
c) Imagine how the Almighty is tolerating you politely despite what you do that
doesn’t please Him. Why should you be annoyed with others when you don’t have
any control over others and the Almighty has all control over you, and what they
do is much less to annoy you than what you do to annoy Him. If you look forward
to getting forgiveness from Him, why on earth should you not forgive others for
the small things they do against you.
d) The last, but most significant thing to do: Put your forehead on the prayer
mat and ask the Almighty to help you out. Just keep asking until you get from
Him. There are other things which He may not give you because He has His own
grand plan of which we know very little. In this regard however there is no
reason why He wouldn’t help you if you pray to Him sincerely. I can tell you
through my experience that He never fails you. However, He would most certainly
I hope this was of some help. Just one request: the tone of the message was the
need of the hour for me, and therefore, there is no reason why you should find
yourself attacked. If one realizes that unjustifiable anger is a sign of
arrogance, the message above will appear very appropriate – from a concerned
teacher to a student.