First of all, let me assure you that you are not
the only one who is facing this problem. There are other people as well who even
after having their own children, find it hard to discuss a lot of things with
I am of the opinion that at times over emphasis on certain
family values can render the relationship weak or even entirely superficial. I
am most certainly not suggesting that respect for elders is not a desirable
value; rather I believe that everything has to be looked at in its proper
perspective without destroying the nature of relationships.
I however have the following suggestions for you.
Think of the most appropriate time when you feel that your
mother might be totally free for five to ten minutes. Go to her and ask her that
you would like to discuss something with her in private. When you have her
attention, tell her that there are times when you face some problems and feel
like talking to somebody but cannot find anybody to talk to. Being kind to you,
she will definitely lend you an earnest ear. Then you can talk about any
particular issue that you are facing.
It will perhaps be extremely difficult for you to do this
for the first time but try to pick up courage by thinking about the fact that
you are not doing anything morally or ethically wrong.
I am positive that it is not that your parents are not
prepared to listen to and help you with your personal problems. It is this ultra
feeling of respect that has prevented you from approaching them. There is
nothing abnormal about that—so you should not make yourself feel worse. Just try
to reach out to them as I have suggested and pray to Allah as well while you try
this. Have faith in Allah. He will indeed help you because you are neither being
disrespectful to your parents nor is it your intention to do anything prohibited
by Allah, the Almighty.