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Criticizing others can prove destructive
for them. It can also be very constructive and can achieve the
required goal if a certain decorum and etiquette is followed.
Some aspects that need our consideration in this regard are
mentioned below:
1. Every criticism should begin with the
acknowledgement of the good traits in the person we intend to
criticize. It will engender confidence and make us stand among
the well-wishers of that person.
2. Criticism should be directly
communicated to the person we intend to criticize instead of
talking to others. Indirect comments may hurt that person’s
feelings when they become known and also create unnecessary
gossip.
3. Criticism should not be based on hearsay
and unfounded information. It should be based on
well-investigated facts and concrete data.
4. It is inappropriate to criticize a
person for a mistake at the very time he is making it. This
often creates a reaction in a person and also does not allow
him the opportunity to calmly reflect on the substance of the
critique.
5. Over-criticism or repetitive criticism
should be avoided. More often than not it proves
counter-productive to the very objective we have in mind.
6. Criticism should not be couched in harsh
words and foul language. The most substantive criticism loses
its impact if it is not conveyed in a polite manner. People
shy away from callous words.
7. The timing of criticism is very
important. We must find opportune moments – moments when a
person’s heart is inclined and his mind is receptive to
critiques.
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