1. Refraining from Backbiting
عَنْ اَبي هُرَيْرَةَ اَنَّ رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ
صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ
وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ اَتَدْرُوْنَ ما الْغِيبَةُ قَالُوْا اللّٰهِ
وَرَسُوْلُهُ اَعْلَمُ قَالَ ذِكْرُكَ اَخَاكَ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ
قِيْلَ اَفَرَاَيْتَ اِنْ كَانَ فِيْ اَخِي مَا اَقُوْلُ قال
اِنْ كَانَ فِيْه ما تَقُوْلُ فَقَدْ اغْتَبْتَهُ وَاِنْ لم
يَكُنْ فيه فَقَدْ بَهَتَّهُ
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reported that God’s Messenger (sws) said:
“Do you know what is backbiting?” The companions replied: “God
and His Messenger know best.” Thereupon, the Prophet (sws)
said: “Backbiting implies you talk about your brother in a
manner which he does not like.” It was asked: “What do you say
if [the fault] I mention is actually found in my brother?” The
Prophet (sws) said: “If it is actually found [in him] you [are
guilty of] backbiting, and if it is not found in him, then you
[are guilty of] slandering him.”
2. Gentleness
عَنْ جَرِيرٍ عَنْ النَّبِی صَلَّی اللّٰهُ
عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ مَنْ يُحْرَمْ الرِّفْقَ يُحْرَمْ
الْخَيْرَ
Jarir (rta) reported that the Prophet (sws) said: “He who is
devoid of gentleness is in fact devoid of goodness.”
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ زَوْجِ النَّبِی صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ اَنَّ رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ يا عَائِشَةُ اِنَّ اللّٰهَ
رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ ويعطی علي الرِّفْقِ ما لَا يعطی علي
الْعُنْفِ وما لَا يعطى علي ما سِوَاهُ
‘Ā’ishah (rta), the wife of the Prophet (sws), reported that
God’s Messenger (sws) said: “‘Ā’ishah! Indeed, God is gentle
and He loves gentleness and gives [to a person who shows]
gentleness what He does not give [to a person who shows]
harshness and what He does not give to any other person.”
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ زَوْجِ النَّبِی صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَنْ النَّبِی صَلَّی اللّٰهُ
عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ اِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَا يَكُونُ فِيْ
شَيْءٍ الا زَانَهُ وَلاَ يُنْزَعُ من شَيْءٍ إلا شَانَهُ
‘Ā’ishah (rta), the wife of the Prophet (sws), reported that
God’s Messenger (sws) said: “Whenever gentleness is found in
something it increases its grandeur and when it is taken away
from anything it makes it flawed.”
3. Refraining from Deception
عَنْ ابي هُرَيْرَةَ اَنَّهُ سمع رَسُوْلَ
اللّٰهِ صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُوْلُ اِنَّ شَرَّ
الناس ذُو الْوَجْهَيْنِ الذي يَاْتِي هَؤُلَاءِ بِوَجْهٍ
وَهَؤُلَاءِ بِوَجْهٍ
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reported that he heard God’s Messenger (sws)
say: “The worst amongst the people is he who has two faces; to
some people he comes with one face and to others with
another.”
4. White Lies
حُمَيْدُ بن عبد الرحمن بن عَوْفٍ أَنَّ
أُمَّهُ أُمَّ كُلْثُومٍ بِنْتَ عُقْبَةَ بن أبي مُعَيْطٍ
وَكَانَتْ من الْمُهَاجِرَاتِ الْأُوَلِ اللَّاتِي بَايَعْنَ
النَّبِی صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ اَخْبَرَتْهُ أنها
سَمِعَتْ رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ
وَهو يقول ليس الْكَذَّابُ الذي يُصْلِحُ بين الناس وَيَقُولُ
خَيْرًا وينمي خَيْرًا
Humayd ibn ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn ‘Awf reported that his mother
Umm Kulthum bint ‘Uqbah ibn Abi Mu‘iṭ (rta), who was amongst
the first emigrants who pledged allegiance to God’s Messenger
(sws), informed him that she heard God’s Messenger (sws) as
saying: “A liar is not one who tries to reconcile people and
speaks good [in order to bring people together] or he conveys
what is good.”
5. Telling the Truth
عَنْ عَبْد اللّٰهِ قَالَ قال رَسُوْلَ
اللّٰهِ صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْكُمْ
بِالصِّدْقِ فان الصِّدْقَ يهدى الي الْبِرِّ وَإِنَّ الْبِرَّ
يهدى إلي الْجَنَّةِ وما يَزَالُ الرَّجُلُ يَصْدُقُ
وَيَتَحَرَّى الصِّدْقَ حتي يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللّٰهِ صِدِّيقًا
وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَالْكَذِبَ فإن الْكَذِبَ يهدى إلي الْفُجُورِ
وَاِنَّ الْفُجُورَ يهدى الي النَّارِ وما يَزَالُ الرَّجُلُ
يَكْذِبُ وَيَتَحَرَّى الْكَذِبَ حتي يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللّٰهِ
كَذَّابًا
‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (rta) stated that God’s Messenger (sws)
said: “It is mandatory upon you to tell the truth, because
truth leads to virtue and virtue leads to Paradise, and a
person who continues to speak the truth and endeavours to tell
the truth and makes it his objective in life is eventually
recorded as truthful with God. And refrain from lying because
lying leads to vice and vice leads to the Fire [of Hell], and
a person who keeps telling lies and lying becomes his
objective, is eventually recorded as a liar with God.”
6. Restraining Anger
عَنْ اَبي هُرَيْرَةَ اَنَّ رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ
صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قال ليس الشَّدِيدُ
بِالصُّرَعَةِ إنما الشَّدِيدُ الذي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ
الْغَضَبِ
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reported that God’s Messenger (sws) said:
“A strong person is not the one who wrestles well but the one
who controls himself in anger.”
عَنْ ابي هُرَيْرَةَ رَضِيْ اللّٰهُ عِنْهُ
اَنَّ رَجُلًا قال لِلنَّبِيِّ صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ
وَسَلَّمَ اَوْصِنِي قال لَا تَغْضَبْ فَرَدَّدَ مِرَارًا قال
لَا تَغْضَبْ
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reports that a person requested the Prophet
(sws): “Counsel me.” He replied: “Do not be angry.” He
repeated this statement several times.
سُلَيْمَانُ بن صُرَدٍ قال اسْتَبَّ
رَجُلَانِ عِنْدَ النَّبِی صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ
فَجَعَلَ أَحَدُهُمَا يَغْضَبُ وَيَحْمَرُّ وَجْهُهُ فَنَظَرَ
اليه النَّبِی صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ فقال اِني
لَأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لو قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ ذَا عنه اَعُوۡذُ
بِاللّٰهِ مِنَ الشَّیۡطٰنِ الرَّجِیۡمِ
Sulayman ibn Surad (rta) reported that two persons abused each
other in the presence of God’s Messenger (sws). It so happened
that one of them became very angry and his face became red.
The Messenger of God looked at him and said: “I know some
words which if he were to utter, he would get rid of his
anger; [the words are:] “I seek refuge with God from Satan,
the accursed.”
7. Showing Affection
عَنْ اَبِيْ هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ الْأَقْرَعَ بن
حَابِسٍ اَبْصَرَ النَّبِی صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ
يُقَبِّلُ الْحَسَنَ فقال اِنَّ لي عَشْرَةً من الْوَلَدِ ما
قَبَّلْتُ وَاحِدًا منهم فقال رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ صَلَّی اللّٰهُ
عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ اِنْه من لَا يَرْحَمْ لَا يُرْحَمْ
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reports that al-Aqra‘ ibn Habis saw the
Prophet (sws) kissing [his grandson] al-Hasan whereupon al-Aqra‘
said: “I have ten children and I have never kissed anyone of
them.” At this, God’s Messenger (sws) said: “He who is not
affectionate to others will not be shown affection [from
God].”
8. Causing Convenience for People
عَنْ اَبِيْ هُرَيْرَةَ عَنْ النَّبِی صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قال لقد رَايت رَجُلًا يَتَقَلَّبُ
في الْجَنَّةِ في شَجَرَةٍ قَطَعَهَا من ظَهْرِ الطَّرِيقِ كانت
تؤذى الناس
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reported that God’s Messenger (sws) said:
“I have seen a person [in a dream] enjoying himself in
Paradise because of the tree that he chopped from a pathway
which was a source of botheration for people.”
اَبُوْ بَرْزَةَ قَالَ قلت يا نَبِيَّ
اللّٰهِ عَلِّمْنِي شيئا أَنْتَفِعُ بِهِ قال اعْزِلْ الْأَذَى
عن طَرِيقِ الْمُسْلِمِينَ
Abu Barzah (rta) reported: “I said: ‘O Prophet of God! Teach
me something which is beneficial to me.’ He said: ‘Remove
things from the paths of the Muslims which are [a source] of
bother [for them].’”
9. Refraining from Slander
عَنْ عَبْد اللّٰهِ بن مَسْعُودٍ قال اِنَّ
مُحَمَّدًا صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قال الا
اُنَبِّئُكُمْ ما العضة هِيَ النَّمِيمَةُ الْقَالَةُ بين الناس
‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (rta) reported that Muhammad (sws) said:
“Should I inform you what slander is? It is tale-carrying
which sows dissension amongst people.”
10. Appearance can be Misleading
عَنْ اَبَيْ هُرَيْرَةَ اَنَّ رَسُوْلَ
اللّٰهِ صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قال رُبَّ أَشْعَثَ
مَدْفُوعٍ بِالْأَبْوَابِ لو أَقْسَمَ علي اللّٰهِ لَأَبَرَّهُ
Abu Hurayrah (rta) reported that God’s Messenger (sws) said:
“Many a person with disheveled hair and laden with dust who
are turned away from the doors are such that if they swear by
God, God will fulfill their oath.”
11. Kindness to Neighbours
بن عُمَرَ يقول قال رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ ما زَالَ جِبْرِيلُ يوصيني
بِالْجَارِ حتي ظَنَنْتُ أَنَّهُ سَيُوَرِّثُهُ
Ibn ‘Umar (rta) states that God’s Messenger (sws) said:
“Gabriel would continue to urge me [to be kind] towards the
neighbour so much that I thought as if he would make him an
heir [in inheritance].”
عَنْ ابي ذَرٍّ قال قال رَسُوْلَ اللّٰهِ
صَلَّی اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ يا اَبَا ذَرٍّ إذا طَبَخْتَ
مَرَقَةً فَأَكْثِرْ مَاءَهَا وَتَعَاهَدْ جِيرَانَكَ
Abu Dharr (rta) reported that God’s Messenger (sws) said: “O
Abu Dharr! When you prepare the broth, add water to it and [in
this way] care for your neighbour.”
عن أبي شُرَيْحٍ اَنَّ النَّبِی صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَال واللّٰه لَا يُؤْمِنُ واللّٰه
لَا يُؤْمِنُ واللّٰه لَا يُؤْمِنُ قِيلَ وَمَنْ يا رَسُوْلَ
اللّٰهِ قال الذي لَا يَاْمَنُ جَارُهُ بوائقه
Abu Shurayh (rta) reports that the Prophet (sws) said: “By
God! That person will not be a believer. By God! That person
will not be a believer. By God! That person will not be a
believer.” People asked: “Who O Messenger of God?” He replied:
“A person whose neighbour is not secure from his mischief.”
12. Cheerful Countenance
عن أبي ذَرٍّ قال قال لِيَ النَّبِی صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا تَحْقِرَنَّ مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِ
شيئا وَلَوْ أَنْ تَلْقَي اَخَاكَ بِوَجْهٍ طَلْقٍ
Abu Dharr (rta) stated: “the Prophet (sws) said to me: ‘Do not
consider anything among good conduct to be insignificant even
if it is [as trivial as] meeting your brother with a cheerful
countenance.’”
13. Good and Bad Company
عَنْ اَبِيْ مُوْسَي عن النَّبِی صَلَّی
اللّٰهُ عَلَیۡهِ وَسَلَّمَ قال انما مَثَلُ الْجَلِيسِ
الصَّالِحِ وَالْجَلِيسِ السَّوْءِ كَحَامِلِ الْمِسْكِ
وَنَافِخِ الْكِيرِ فَحَامِلُ الْمِسْكِ اِمَّا اَنْ يُحْذِيَكَ
وَاِمَّا اَنْ تَبْتَاعَ منه وَاِمَّا اَنْ تَجِدَ منه رِيحًا
طَيِّبَةً وَنَافِخُ الْكِيرِ اِمَّا اَنْ يُحْرِقَ ثِيَابَكَ
وَاِمَّا اَنْ تَجِدَ رِيحًا خَبِيثَةً
Abu Musa (rta) reported that the Prophet (sws) said: “The
example of companionship of a good person and that of a bad
one is that of the owner of musk and of the one who ignites a
furnace. As for the owner of musk, he will either offer it you
free of charge or you will buy it from him or you will smell
its sweet odour. The one who ignites a furnace [on the other
hand] will either burn your clothes or you shall have to smell
its repulsive odour.”
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