One of the keys to success in this life as well as in the
afterlife is self-control. It is all about channelizing our
emotions when they get worked up inside us. These emotions
need to be vented in the right place because they can make a
difference. If they are vented wrongly or at the wrong place,
they can cause havoc. We must realize that our greatest enemy
is inside us. Let us try to vanquish it as much as we can and
for as long as we can. A cultured person always weighs his
intent before he speaks out. With this restraint, we may
perhaps remain silent most of the time! Self-control often
leads to moral victory. Losing it, often leads to moral defeat
even if one’s stance is correct!
Perhaps the strongest of these emotions relate to sexual
desires. It can break families and play havoc in societies by
turning it into a herd of animals.
Anger can be regarded as another potent emotion. It can end up
in killing or seriously injuring someone or saying something
very hurtful. Divorces often happen in anger related
Proclivity towards excessive eating is another area in which
restraint must be exercised. It not only makes us lose sight
of higher objectives of life, it is also injurious to health.
Addiction, specially to intoxicants, leaves a society bereft
of a basic human value: modesty and chastity.
The list goes on. What then must be done?
Whenever we find an intense urge building in us, it is here
that we must discipline ourselves and ask the question: What
will this take me to? If regret is to be only consequence, why
not prevent it from happening? We must exercise self-control
by preparing in advance. This pre-preparation is best done
through self-suggestion and self-realization. We have to talk
to ourselves and prepare to exercise restraint whenever a
surge rises in us.