the greatest assets of human beings. Who among us can even think of a bleak
future for his children? However, mere wishing and day-dreaming will never
help materialize a prosperous future for our children. Here are some briefly
described tactical points which can make your children the comfort of your
eyes for this life and for that to come.
1. Woes of
Life – a Challenge
always been a priority of parents to give as much happiness to their children
as they can and, generally, most of this happiness is mundane. However,
happiness is derived not only through materialistic things; its main source is
attached with the attitudes towards life – a positive attitude. In this world,
it is impossible to avoid the woes of life. Do what you may but you cannot
immunize your children from them.
is one definite way through which you can smother the woes of life: give a
positive perception of life to your children; tell them that the woes of life
give birth to the best of humans, and it follows thus that the woes of life
are indeed a blessing of Allah. On the one hand, they continuously hone the
abilities of a person and on the other hand, they become a means to achieve
the best gifts of Allah besides His approval. Therefore, always instil in your
children the aspiration to treat the woes of life as a challenge. Only then
will they be able to observe that what is detrimental for others would be a
nurturing feature of their life.
for Hard work
thing, which must be given to children, is training for hard work. Parents
tend to pamper their children for an easy life, but over-pampering will make
life miserable and lackadaisical in the future. In this world, there is no
room for success for lethargic and useless people. Success is achievable only
through hard work. Even intelligence grows prominent on the crutches of hard
work – as the saying goes “Genius is ninety-percent perspiration and ten
very beginning of childhood, children should undergo mental and physical
labour. Don’t wait until they are grown up. As they grow, they become firm in
their habits – which, later, cannot be altered easily: “you can bend a sapling
but not a tree”.
learn from Adults
A child is
an excellent copycat. His imitations either reflect you or the environment
provided by you. Thus, whatever you wish your child to be he will be, provided
he gets the necessary environment. A child who is used to hearing lies in his
surroundings cannot be expected to hate lies by merely reading moral stories
found in most books.
In the same
way, children, who are reared on the facilities of cable television networks
and immoral movies, cannot be expected to grow up into noble humans. It is a
dream which can never come true. Your children are just a reflection of the
environment you provide.
Attention and Direct Interaction
Gone are the
days when children grew up themselves. Now every child needs personal
attention. Despite all your precautions, the evils and atrocities of a
society, most definitely, find access to your child. It is your constant and
direct interaction with your children which would shield them from evil. Your
friendly attitude and direct interaction is the way in which you can openly
discuss any topic with your children; moreover, you can tell them that the
evils of this world are incongruous to our religious and social values.
Without personal attention and direct interaction, children would have access
to possibly unwise friends and immoral books to satiate their curiosity, which
would lead them to perversity – both mental and practical.
your Children’s Intelligence
Muslims, it is our responsibility to impart to our children the basic
paradigms of our religion, such as, there is only one Creator of this universe
for our guidance, He has also sent His messengers, and one day we will be
presented before our Allah and will be held accountable for our deeds. People
with good deeds will be rewarded Paradise and those with bad deeds will be
sent to Hell.
values such as modesty, trust, honesty, verity and justice should be woven
into a child’s personality. This is one of the primal responsibilities of
parents. Moreover, solving problems through negotiations and not trusting
rumours without verification are some of the best qualities of human nature.
Don’t you wish to see your children at the peak of religiosity, morality and
Education is Imperative
aforesaid things, it is necessary to provide good education to children
according to their aptitudes. Good education does not mean an expensive
English medium school. Rather, whatever the status of a school, students ought
to have full command on the syllabus. An ordinary school can and does have the
best syllabus, provided it is imparted fully and in a manner as it is meant to
It is hoped
that after adopting the above-mentioned strategies, our children would prove
to be an envious asset of our society. Besides taking these measures, we
should keep praying to the Almighty to bless our children with piety and
righteousness; in particular, the following prayer is very apt in this regard:
Lord! Grant us wives and offspring who will be the comfort
of our eyes. (25:74)
by Muhammad Hanif)