The family is the
building block of a society. On its smooth functioning depends
the smooth functioning of the society. More often than not
spouses end up disenchanted and disappointed with one another.
There are obviously many reasons for this. The list of
complaints is very long at times.
One remedy to this
situation is that a husband and a wife should concentrate more
on his or her own attitude and behaviour towards the other. So
here are some suggestions for wives that may help in this
regard. (Suggestions to husbands have been discussed in a
separate article)
Wives should not
discuss the shortcomings and mistakes of their husbands in
public (except in very special situations). This more often
than not breaks the privacy of the family and is very
counterproductive for inter-personal relationships. These
shortcomings are best discussed in private and a strategy
should be chalked out to mutually help one another in
overcoming them because no one is free from them.
Wives should try to
make their children feel proud of their father. After all,
besides shortcomings, a father must be having some good traits
too. If these traits are praised in front of the children, it
will build trust and instil harmony between the spouses.
Wives may realize that
in spite of some failings, a husband must have done something
for them. If they verbally express gratitude to them
periodically it will be a nice gesture and a a sign of
acknowledgement on their part. This can work wonders for a
marital relationship.
Wives should adopt an
attitude of harmony and compliance with husbands because the
latter have been invested with the position of the head of the
family by none other than the Creator of the heavens and the
earth. Husbands are expected to carry on the affairs of the
family in a democratic way and reason out all differences of
opinion with their wives. However, if there is a deadlock,
then he has the casting vote.
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