Jealousy is a human
weakness and a negative emotion we all must strive to
overcome. It damages human relationships. Friends turn into
foes. Long time affiliations take ugly turns and turn into
hideous animosities.
What then should be
done?
Here are some remedies
which may help us in vanquishing this fiendish trait.
i. We must develop the
habit of looking at people around us who are less fortunate
and facing hardships of life. This will instil in us the
emotions of gratitude for God and direct our attention to what
we have instead of brooding on what we do not have and
becoming jealous of others.
ii. We must
concentrate on our own abilities and potentials. Each person
is born with some talent or skill. It is just a question of
discovering it and polishing it in order to make a difference
in the society we live in. Never mind if we do not have some
things that others have. We should be proud of our own set of
abilities.
iii. We never know the
inner situation of a person we are jealous of. He might be
blessed in a few traits but he might be undergoing his own
share of problems in life. If we come to know of these
problems we might in fact end up being sympathetic to him
instead of being jealous.
iv. We should make an
effort to take the initiative in meeting and greeting people
whom we are jealous of. This strikes a blow to the malice in
us. A step ahead in this regard would be to give them gifts on
various occasions like eid and birthdays.
v. We must train
ourselves to be at peace with God’s distribution. He has given
some people and deprived some others to make them pass through
a trial and choose the successful ones for His Paradise. We
must patiently endure this trial while being thankful for His
blessings.
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