As human beings, all
of us have self-esteem and pride in us. We would not like any
person to ridicule or condemn something we never did. If
anyone does, our natural response is that we react and at
times react very badly. This is because if the accusation or
mockery has no basis, we feel cheated and insulted. If the
critic is a person who knows us well, the reaction is much
stronger because we think that at least someone who knows us
the way we know ourselves will show empathy and sympathy.
More often than not we
do not get this sympathy. More often than not we end up
severely wounded. This leads to a reaction that roars with
rage. Venting our anger may relax our body mechanism after
some time, but it will never remove the accusation that we
consider was false. It will complicate matters and give the
accuser and the onlookers, if present, the impression that we
do not have any sound defence, and that the weak defence is
being bolstered by frenzy and fury.
The only way out is to
patiently hear out false accusations and wrong charges. No
doubt our self-esteem gets hurt. But here lies the test from
God. We must not hit back through insults and pungent words.
All we should do is to let the other person finish and then in
a very calm and cool manner present our response and that too
if the situation is conducive to it. Otherwise, it is much
wiser to wait for opportune moments and till then consign our
matter to God.
He is our best