Recently, one of
my friends lost his middle-aged wife. His agony has induced me
to write the following lines. These are in fact five concrete
suggestions for married couples to help them face the hard
facts of marriage and find happiness and solace in their
1. They must
enjoy the company of one another while they can, for one of
them will leave this world before the other. They must relish
and savour each moment and realize how important these moments
of companionship are. Otherwise, an eternal regret may remain
with the one who outlives the other.
2. They must
learn to appreciate the qualities of one another. Each person
is gifted with some positive traits. Often these gifts are
appreciated in the mind. Yet this appreciation needs a
frequent expression in words. It gives a tremendous boost to
mutual trust and confidence.
3. They must
downplay and ignore as much as possible one another’s
weaknesses and shortcomings. Everyone has them and at times
there is no option but to patiently live with them while at
the same time trying to help one’s spouse in overcoming them
through affection, support and patience. Love conquers
4. They must
spend some time with one another every day doing small talk.
Each of us has a child in us which needs to be occasionally
brought out. Humour and amusement relaxes one another and
works wonders for a happy marital relationship.
5. They must
work out a conflict resolution strategy. Differences are bound
to arise whenever two people live together. This is a given. A
practical strategy in this regard will keep the marriage boat
afloat and sailing through rough seas.