The objective of religion is
purification of the soul. In no way does it regard anal or oral sex as
desirable. The Almighty has directed Muslims to come near their wives through
the way He has prescribed for it. The words of the Qur’
ān are:فَأْتُوهُنَّ
مِنْ حَيْثُ أَمَرَكُمْ اللَّهُ (٢:
٢٢٢) (go to them
from where God has enjoined you, (2:222)). The norms of copulation are ingrained
in human nature, and as such are no less than a directive of God. Thus if anyone
disobeys this innate guidance he disobeys an explicit directive – in fact,
something more than explicit, and thus shall definitely be punished by the
Almighty for this.
Where this verse occurs in the Qur’ān,
right after it, the Qur’ān has explained this very directive through the
metaphor of cultivated land. While explaining these verses, Imām Amīn Ahsan
Islāhī writes:
One very apparent reason for using this metaphor is the fact
that just as for a cultivated land it is essential on the part of the farmer
that seeds be sown in the appropriate season at the right time, and no farmer
disregards the principle that they be sown within the fields and not scattered
outside them, similarly it is a norm of human instinct that one should not
approach a lady for sexual intercourse during the menstrual cycle or in an
unnatural way because the period of menses is a time during which women are
frigid and not inclined, while unnatural intercourse is a painful and wasteful
activity. Therefore, people who have not perverted their nature cannot indulge
in such an activity.
While explaining the expression
أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ
(go then, into your lands in any manner you please), Islāhī goes on to write:
… [this] alludes simultaneously to
two things: on the one hand, it refers to the liberty, freedom and free manner
with which a farmer approaches his land, and on the other hand refers to the
responsibility, caution and care which he must exercise in approaching his land.
The word حَرْثٌ refers to
the latter and the word أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ
to the former. It is both this liberty and caution which ascertain the correct
behaviour of a husband with his wife in this regard.
Everyone knows that the real bliss of
married life is the freedom a person has in intimate affairs barring a few broad
restrictions. The feeling of this freedom has a great amount of euphoria around
it. When a person is with his wife in intimate moments, Divine will seems to be
that he be overcome with emotions but at the same time it is pointed out to him
that he has come into a field and an orchard; it is no wasteland or a forest. He
may come to it in whatever manner and in whatever way whenever he pleases, but
he must not forget that he has landed in his orchard. The Qur’ān has no
objection on the discretion, choice and majesty with which he approaches his
field if he knows full well where he is going and in no way is oblivious of this
reality.
The importance of all these directives
is pointed to by the Qur’ān in the words إِنَّ اللَّهَ
يُحِبُّ التَّوَّابِينَ وَيُحِبُّ الْمُتَطَهِّرِينَ
(God indeed loves those who repent and those who adhere to cleanliness). While
explaining the importance of these words in the eyes of the Almighty, Islāhī
writes:
… if one deliberates on the essence
of tawbah and tatahhur, one comes to the conclusion that while the former means
to cleanse one’s inner-self from sins, the latter means to cleanse one’s
outer-self from filth and dirt. Viewed thus, both are similar in their essence
and the Almighty holds both these traits of a believer in great admiration. On
the other hand, people who lack these traits are disliked by the Almighty. It is
evident from the context of this verse that those who do not refrain from
intercourse with their wives during their periods of impurity and violate the
limits ingrained in human nature in satisfying their sexual urge are detestable
in the eyes of the Almighty.
(Translated from
Maqāmāt by Shehzad Saleem)
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